The Advice that Older Women for the Young on Marriage

In studies of over 700 long-married people, uncovered hundreds of pieces of advice, from specific tips.

So what’s one thing older women would like younger women to know about love and marriage?

After pondering the data, a particular point stood out that the women in ranging in age from 63 to 108 wanted to pass on to those embarking on the relationship journey.

When it comes to choosing a mate, they says again and again: “Choose carefully!”.

Virginia, 73, described rushing into marriage as one of the biggest mistakes anyone can make. “I got married to get away from home,” she said. “So there was fellow and we up and got married the week me 18. Well, two children and we divorced. So please, tell younger people: When it comes to marriage, don’t rush into things.”

1. Think the old-fashioned way.
The elders suggest you think about whether your future spouse will be a “good provider.” It’s an old-fashioned term, but it embodies a fundamental truth: marriage may be about love, but it’s also an economic arrangement that unites the financial futures of the partners.

2. Do other people like your partner?
You don’t need to make the choice entirely on your own, older women say. Listen to your friends and family: Do they like your partner? Do they think your partner is serious about the relationship?

3. Do your life goals align?
The elders say that women should make sure — before committing — that their partner’s goals for a good life together align with theirs. They suggest serious discussions about one another’s goals and aspirations for work and career, for how expensive a lifestyle you wish to live, and particularly important — children.